What should I do in my 20s and 30s so I don’t regret it in my 40s?

After talking to over 400 high achievers and top performers. The majority of these people are aged 35+. These are the common themes that they all followed in order to become hyper-successful (many of them were complete failures in their 20s and then turned things around).

Number 1. Take Your Health Seriously

Your metabolism slows as you age, making it vital that you take care of your health now.

Eat 80% whole foods, and more greens, drink plenty of clean water, supplement wisely and go to the gym at least 4 times a week. Once a week, sweat like you’re running for your life. Get Outside and Go for a Walk You should spend about 30 minutes each day doing something outdoors. Outdoor activity has been shown to improve mental health, mood, and well-being. Studies have shown that exercise can increase serotonin in the brain, which has been linked to improved mood, sleep quality, and memory function.

Number 2. Save and Invest 20%

Consider this an additional 20% tax from Uncle Sam. Put aside 10% of every paycheck into an opportunity fund and the other 10% into a low-risk, high yield index fund or something similar. When the market crashes, you’ll have the cash to buy assets at a massive discount. This is how average people can become wealthy. The only one who can guarantee your future financial stability is you. And this means having a plan for what to do when the banks close, the government shuts down, and society collapses.

Number 3. Educate Yourself Daily

You should spend about 30 minutes each day reading books, listening to podcasts or audiobooks, or taking online courses. It will be worth your time. The Reading Habit The more you read, the better your grades will be.  You will find it easier to retain information and gain new knowledge.  If you want to be an effective leader, a better parent, or a more productive student, you should read more. Books are full of information and can help you find your purpose in life. You can practice time management by reading one chapter at a time over the course of the day. If you are feeling blocked, try reading one page or part of a page at a time.

Number 4. Start Sleeping 8 Hours+ A Night

You do not get more done with less sleep because you end up doing average work.

You will perform at least 70% better than you normally do. Try to be in bed by 11 p.m. and awake between 6:30 and 8:00 a.m. depending on your needs (if you are active, you will need more sleep). Blackout the room, turn off all screens and devices by 9 p.m. and drink a cup of hot water with 1 tbsp of honey and 2 tbsp of apple cider vinegar. Goodnight…

Your life will never be the same.

Number 5. Get a Coach

It might seem kind of weird at first, but having a men’s coach helped me accelerate my life, relationships, and business in ways that I can’t even count. . I’ve had more amazing one-on-one conversations with my coach than I’ve ever had otherwise. All the knowledge that comes out of our sessions is so valuable to me, and the perspective he’s given me has made a big difference in how I see things in general. Regardless of your current level of success, you NEED a coach to help you identify your blind spots, spot opportunities, and ensure that you stay accountable during your 30’s so that you can enjoy your 40s. All the things you procrastinated on in your 30s, you will pay for in your 40s and beyond.

Number 6. Take it easy on yourself.

10,000 years ago, simply making it to 30 years old would be considered a massive “success”.

Today, you aren’t a “success” unless you have a supermodel wife, a 7-figure bank account, and a body like Adonis. This is a load of crap. You aren’t doing as badly as you think, and you can always do better than you realize. Learn to relax and take it easy on yourself, love yourself, and take care of yourself. Enjoy the present moment otherwise, you’ll miss it all.

Number 7. Stop Listening to Broke Unhappy People

Unless you want to learn what not to do, stop listening to unhappy people. Even if they are your friends or family.  You can’t control other people’s choices. Just because someone is broke and unhappy does not mean they know what they’re talking about. If they don’t have the results you want in life then of course show respect but move on and do what you want to do anyway.

Number 8. Give Up the Major Vices

In your 20s, you can smoke cigarettes, pound the booze, snort lines, and huff who knows what, and wake up the next day and hit the gym strong in the morning. As you break into your 30’s, this is no longer the case. Not only is your body no longer able to take the same abuse that it once could, but you are significantly increasing your risk for premature death if you engage in these vices on a regular basis. If you want to have a sip of bourbon with some friends or the occasional cigarette, let it be. If it becomes a part of your daily lifestyle, then you will certainly limit your potential and have regrets in your 40s.

But if you are a slave to any substance or bad habit it needs to get cut out NOW.

Number 9. Quit Doing Stuff You Hate

Some of the most valuable advice that I have been given has been “life is too damn short to spend it doing things you hate.” I am reminded of that advice every time I do something that doesn’t make me happy, even if it is for the sake of someone else. You are not your income. You are not your relationship status. You are not your job, and you are not your bank account balance. You are not your past mistakes. You are not lacking success. You are not your weight. And you are most certainly not your size. If you hate your job, relationship, or city… Change it. Find the lessons, learn from them, and don’t look back.

Number 10. Be Present

The worst thing you can do in your thirties is to repeat the mistakes of your twenties. They go through these amazing decades of their lives without ever actually getting to experience them. They are constantly trying to get to the next thing in search of happiness, and eventually, they wake up old and dying, only to realize that they never truly lived. Don’t let this be you. Use your twenties to become the person you want to be in your thirties.  In my twenties, I was a workaholic and pursued anything that I thought would make me happy. In the end, it never did. It wasn’t until I took control of my habits and put myself first in my thirties that I finally felt fulfilled.

Number 11. Embrace your Mortality

You’re just 1 doctor’s visit away from a diagnosis that could severely limit your lifespan or quality of life. We are all victims of this disease we share called being human, and there is no escaping it. So while we are here (and don’t actually know for how long) live your life in the best way possible. that is in alignment with your values and what you want out of this beautiful experience we call life.



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